You are sitting in a cafe about to enjoy a coffee or delicious meal with your family or a friend. Having some big belly laughs. It's sunny and beautiful outside. Then, the lovely server comes over and you know that they are from the country that one of your parents are from. Or maybe you are from? You're not sure--never have been. Then, the questions come flooding in--should I speak to them in the language my parent or parents speaks? Will they be able to tell that I am also from the country they are from or not? Will they pick up on my accent? If I only speak English to them am I hiding something or avoiding something?
These are the sorts of events in daily life that can catch you off guard...again. That can raise those questions you've always asked yourself (and others have asked you) since you were young. Where do I belong? Where do I not belong? Who am I, really? Will this random stranger or even family member think I belong? Does it matter? Plus, it doesn't stop there. Deciding on where to live, where to raise your children (if you have any), what values you want to instill? Perhaps they values they are not even interested in you instilling.
Identity can be tricky. It certainly is fluid. Discoveries such as this can be life changing. Being seen by someone who understands, perhaps is the same or similar to you, can bring peace. Don't stay stuck in the in between anymore. You deserve to explore wherever else this is affecting your life and find some relief. Therapy attuned to multiculturalism can truly help. You aren't alone. We are one of the fastest growing populations in the world. Contact me to discover more and I can help you discover you.
