Creating space between you and your thoughts
Do you find yourself replaying conversations days or even weeks later?
Perhaps your mind returns to difficult experiences again and again, even when you would rather focus on something else. You may notice yourself dwelling on worries, frustrations or self-criticism, leaving you feeling exhausted, overwhelmed or stuck in unhelpful thought patterns.
Many people find that their minds naturally gravitate towards the difficult parts of life while overlooking the positive experiences that are happening around them.
Understanding why this happens
When we repeatedly focus on certain thoughts, our brains strengthen those pathways over time.
This can lead us to believe that anxiety, worry, sadness or self-criticism are simply a normal part of everyday life. We can become caught in cycles of rumination that leave us feeling disconnected from the present moment and unable to move forward.
The good news is that these patterns can change.
How mindfulness and breathwork can help
Mindfulness is not about forcing thoughts away or trying to empty your mind.
Instead, it involves learning how to notice thoughts, emotions and experiences without becoming caught up in them. Rather than feeding difficult thought patterns, we learn to acknowledge them and respond differently.
Breathwork can be a valuable part of this process.
Simple techniques such as Box Breathing, breathing in for four counts, holding for four counts, breathing out for four counts, and holding again for four counts, can help activate the parasympathetic nervous system and create a greater sense of calm and grounding.
Building a different relationship with your thoughts
When we work together, we can explore mindfulness and breathing techniques that fit your needs and goals.
The aim is not to eliminate difficult thoughts altogether. The aim is to develop a different relationship with them so they no longer have the same impact on your day-to-day life.
Over time, many people find that they become less caught up in worry and rumination, more present in their lives, and better able to experience moments of contentment, connection and joy.
As Kumar (2009) writes, "Mindfulness as your boat and breathwork as your anchor" can help guide the way forward.
